Feedback Thoughts

 

 

Modern Fantasy

Source: Feedback Cats (Cheezburger)

Articles Read:

- Why rejection hurts so much — and what to do about it by Guy Winch [ here ]
- Seven Ways to Crush Self-Doubt in Creative Work by John Spencer [ here ]

There were a couple of important points I took from the articles. First, rejection often isn't personal. It's usually an issue of them wanting certain specifications that you weren't a good choice for. Trying to pick apart what personal faults caused the rejection is unnecessary because of this. Still, thinking rationally doesn't mean you won't have an emotional response to the rejection. Which is why it's important to apply emotional first aid. You can do this by making a list of your strengths. Reaffirm your worth by reminding yourself of your strengths that other people find valuable.

Also one piece of advice from John Spencer's article which I've been already trying to follow was, "Don't compare yourself to others." It's difficult in this age of social media where there's this gloss of perfection in people's posts as we curate how the world sees us. Everyone seems to have the perfect job, the perfect family, and everyone's smiling in pictures posted. It's important to remind yourself that this is only the veneer of people's lives, and not the real depth of it. 

I think the most important feedback I've gotten during my university career were those that allowed growth. Just a letter grade does nothing to tell you how to improve. Professors that allowed a growth mentality in class versus fixed helped me become better in other classes as well.